Balita – si trouble maker
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MamsPaps pusing menghadapi si kecil yang rewel dan bandel? Hal-hal kecil yang MamsPaps lakukan untuk menangani si junior trouble maker berpengaruh dalam pembentukan karakter si kecil ketika besar nanti, apakah akan menjadi anak yang manja atau mandiri, tergantung dari cara MamsPaps menangani masalah perilakunya ketika balita. |
Perkembangan balita
Ketika si kecil sudah mulai bisa mengoceh, aktif berlarian, bahkan sudah tau apa yang dia sukai, merengek minta ini itu, Mams Paps sudah mulai kewalahan menghadapi rewelnya dan keaktifan si kecil, kadang-kadang malah merasa kesal, seolah-olah kenakalan si kecil dilakukan dengan sengaja.
Dalam menghadapi hal ini, MamsPaps mulai untuk bersikap tegas dan memberlakukan batasan-batasan mana yang boleh dan tidak secara konsisten. Ya contohnya saja dengan memberlakukan system “reward & punishment”, si kecil belajar mana sikap yang buruk dan mana yang baik.
Tantrum
Tantrum biasanya ada 2 tipe penyebab tantrum
Berikut cara-cara menangani si kecil yang sedang tantrum:
Marah dan Agresif
Marah merupakan salah satu ekspresi yang natural. Namun, beberapa anak tidak mengerti cara mengungkapkan kemarahan, dan melampiaskannya dengan memukul, menggigit, membanting barang tanpa suatu alasan, berarti si kecil butuh perhatian ekstra.
Tidak Mandiri dan Selalu ingin Menempel dengan MamsPaps
Hampir semua balita mengalami hal ini sampai usia tertentu. Si kecil yang selalu manja dan tidak mau lepas dari MamsPaps menunjukan kebutuhan si kecil akan perhatian dan keamanan. Si kecil merasa tidak aman jika jauh dari MamsPaps.
Jika si kecil melakukan hal tersebut berlebihan, mungkin pertanda bahwa si kecil merasa tidak sehat atau stress dengan keadaan lingkungan sekitar yang terlalu ramai dan bising atau tempat baru yang asing bagi si kecil. Namun terkadang MamsPaps kesal ketika si kecil merengek ingin selalu digendong dan tidak ingin lepas dari MamsPaps.
Remember - when children behave worst it is usually because they need more affection - and what they usually get is less affection.
If your toddler's behaviour is becoming very difficult for you to manage and/or if you are worried, it is important to get some professional help. Getting things on the right track when children are young is much easier than trying to solve problems later on. In South Australia you could call the Parent Helpline 1300 364 100
Take time for you
Being a parent of a toddler takes lots of time and energy. Make sure you have some time for yourself to do something you enjoy. For this you may have to leave your toddler with someone else for a while. We all need to recharge our batteries regularly - it helps us keep going.
Beberapa ide yang dapat membantu
There will be problems when you live with a toddler. They want to be independent but they don't have self control.
Child proof the environment
Put away valuables and dangerous objects. But make sure your toddler still has interesting things to do.
Don't just say "No" - divert and distract
If they are doing something that you want them to stop, don't just say "no". Help them to do something different. Say "Look at this". Use games - "I'll race you to the bath", "let's hop like kangaroos to the table". A bath, music or story can help when children are tired.
Prepare for changes
When changes are happening toddlers feel stressed and they need extra attention, love and security. Big changes such as moving house or a new baby can be very hard, but even little changes, such as leaving the playground can upset them a lot. Allow them their cuddly toys, dummies etc. If possible prepare them in advance for change a little at a time. Tell or show them what the change may mean.
When you have to leave them
Toddlers often cry or scream when left with someone else because they are frightened of being separated from their parents. When leaving children say goodbye and reassure them that you will come back. See 'Separation anxiety' for more ideas.